Hey Dad..!

Most people know me best for my time as Jenny Kelly on Hey Dad..!

Here’s some pics from throughout the years. We made the pilot when I was just 6 years old and I quit when I was 15. It was the late 80’s, early 90’s, which explains a lot about the outfits and hairstyles. Although, with the 80’s making a comeback, I might just be fashionable again…

For those of you questioning why I would put these pics up on my site, it’s almost a full 3rd of my life I spent working on that show. I don’t hate the whole show, just what happened to me. I still love the rest of the cast and crew.

Original Cast.

Robert Hughes, Julie McGregor, Simone Buchanan, Chris Truswell, Paul Smith and Sarah Monahan

New season with Chris Mayer replacing Paul Smith as Simon

Gotta love the pre signed fan cards.

The later years, with Rachel Beck and Ben Oxenbould

Where are they Now? 2007
Where are they Now? Hey Dad reunion 2006

    

 

 

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  • Veronica…

    Waterlily – I really wish I could write as concisely and articulately as you. You touched on everything I was feeling and thinking, but couldn’t put into words. I’m a survivor too, and my abuser was a family member and a barrister. A swordsman with words. I couldn’t trust myself to go through the court process, because I thought I might explode with fury at the injustice of it all.

    However, I did confront him in my mid 20’s and I’m very glad I did. Confronting him in person meant I didn’t need to be correct and behave in a manner appropriate to court. I got to shoot from the hip and tell him exactly what I thought of him. It was very healing. But I do wish I’d been brave enough to take him on in court and It’s why I admire Sarah so much.

    As you said: The court process must have been brutal… and: Australia does have a culture of protecting high-profile paedophiles. Your post was so articulate that I hope you keep writing and speaking out. You have such a talent for it and you’re so inspiring…

    Peace & Love to you…
    Veronica…

  • Veronica…

    Hi Stephen,
    Australia needs people like you too! Real men who aren’t afraid to speak up and terrific dads who want to keep their daughters safe. I never knew that – so I admire you immensely. I’m not a very trusting person, but it heals my heart to hear good men speak up on Sarah’s behalf…
    Thank-you…

  • elvis

    NO IM NOT ROBERT HUGHES

  • elvis

    OH PLEASE. I DONT SIT AT THE COMPUTER FINGERING A CUNT LIKE YOU. GET A LIFE YOU SAD OLD MOLE TROLL.

  • Sarah Monahan Morris

    yeah, Robert is in Silverwater, while your IP shows an address at Callantina and Glenferrie Rd, In Hawthorne East, near Melbourne…. Either way, you might try taking the caps lock off. You look like an arsehole.

  • Veronica…

    Go Sarah!!! You made me *giggle* this morning… Yes – Robert is in Silverwater sleeping on a hard prison bunk (if he sleeps at all) Meanwhile I’m nestling on my soft comfy pillows with my faithful dog at my side. Ahh!! sweet, sweet justice!!!

  • Veronica…

    Hi Kellie, I am a survivor too and although I will never be fully healed in the sense that I will never get to be the sweet, trusting person I was meant to be, I’ve developed enormous strengths and attributes as a survivor. Empathy is one of these attributes and I’ve often been the first person other adults and children disclose their abuse to. I’ve also discovered that I have an inner core of steel. I might hurt at times, but I will never break. I spent my childhood afraid, I spent my 20’s in a place of fury, and now that I’m 48 I live in a little cottage with beautiful flower gardens, accompanied by my faithful companion, my darling dog. I feel very lucky and very happy to be in the place I’m in.

    But I know what you mean. I will never be healed in terms of intimate relationships. I have great relationships with my neighbours and I know without a doubt I have safe people living on either side of me. But I simply am not able to open up or trust in an intimate relationship. I have tried in the past and experienced further abuse, so I’m simply not willing to go there again. In that area I will never be healed and I have indeed been robbed. But it also gives me the freedom to be just me – and I like that. I need that. I hope you find as much healing and as much happiness as you can. You deserve that.

    Sending you pretty flowers from my garden, dancing butterflies, rainbows and puppy dog cuddles…

  • Veronica…

    Even though Robert Hughes was found guilty – I still have a lot of unanswered questions in my mind about the people that protected and enabled him. His spouse, Robyn Gardiner is the agent who represents Cate Blanchett. Cate Blanchett made a movie with alleged paedophile Woody Allen. His adopted daughter – Dylan Farrow – wrote an open letter detailing the alleged abuse by Woody and asked:

    What if it had been your child, Cate Blanchett?

    Like Sarah, Dylan is another brave young woman who spoke up, but unfortunately she was not able to get a conviction. However, she did publicly out her abuser and publicly challenged those that continue to enable him. It’s not just the Australian culture that protects paedophiles, it’s a global phenomenon. And it makes me sick to my stomach…

    Words fail me and feelings consume me…but through this process comes immense healing…

    Thank-you Sarah for helping so many of us heal…

  • Stephen Bala

    Sarah,

    I was close to your own age when I watched you on “Hey Dad!”. It makes me so terribly angry that you’ve suffered what you have. It could have and should have been prevented. You were let down by so many people. And yet you have triumphed over it all. Just the fact that you have survived is proof of that. What has not destroyed you, has made you stronger.

    I have never met you and probably never will. But please know that there are people who would have spared you if they could, and who care about you still.

    Stephen Bala

  • waterlily

    Thanks Sarah. I can’t believe you’re still getting loads of spam, even now he’s been convicted. That’s disappointing.

  • waterlily

    You’re right Veronica, its not just Australia. Then there’s Roman Polanski as well… The Cate Blanchett thing bothers me too, she thanked Robyn Gardiner in an awards speech (possibly the Oscars?) while the trial was under way, which to me sends a message of support. Its interesting that Robyn’s agency has not lost even one high profile client since all of this went down. I understand that she’s taken a step back from the agency, but its her name on the doors and she’s still listed as a director. I wonder if Cate, or any of Robyn’s other high profile clients would feel comfortable letting their agent and her husband baby sit their kids? If not, they’re being hypocrites.

    I know people may think this is harsh as she was not the abuser, but she chose to be in denial after being told by several people (including Liz Mullinar, a close friend) what was going on and choosing not to believe it. So she knew but chose not to know. And by doing so she enabled him to keep doing it and her power within the industry gave him the protection to get away with it.

    And by standing by her (at least professionally) these high profile actors are unwittingly helping to keep the status quo as is. I would love for the industry to actually react to this, and take a stand with their actions to say this is not ok. A conviction isn’t enough the community needs to respond as well.

  • waterlily

    Thank you Veronica. Your comment made my day 🙂

  • Stephen Bala

    Veronica,
    Thank you very much for your kind message. I have never personally experienced sexual assault, but I have seen its effects. I feel deeply for you. I myself am not a stranger to emotional pain – I suffer from chronic severe depression.

    I have watched the interview of Tonya Lee on ACA regarding Rolfe Harris. Now that is a brave woman in pain if ever I’ve seen one.

    I have been shocked and horrified to learn that those who prey on our most vunerable are being protected and enabled. And I don’t understand why more men don’t speak up. In my opinion, paedophiles are the scum of the scum. If it were up to me, no-one who harmed a child would ever be given the opportunity to do it again.

    I am glad to hear that you are in a good place now. I have two dogs and two cats, and love them very much, too. But I also understand what you mean when you say you will never be truly healed. I feel like that when I think of the dark places I have been to. But maybe it’s not our job to heal ourselves fully. Maybe it’s to survive this whole crazy life-thing with integrity?

    Best wishes,
    Steve

  • Veronica…

    I don’t think it’s harsh at all Waterlily. You are one of the few people who make sense to me. Some of these people chose not to know and the Cate Blanchett thing really, really bothers me. I wanted to write so much more about that, but I’ve also learned not to allow this stuff to consume me. Sometimes It’s important for me to step back and take time away from it . Play with my dog and mess around in the garden.

    Survivors know there are really bad people in the world, but when they disclose and so-called good people do nothing, or support the perpetrator it is such a betrayal. Thanks for mentioning Roman Polanski too…I know you get it and I know you understand what I’m talking about… Some artistic temperaments see themselves as being above what they see as bourgeois, conventional thinking.

    As you said: I wonder if Cate, or any of Robyn’s other high profile clients would feel comfortable letting their agent and her husband baby sit their kids?

  • Veronica…

    Thank you Waterlily 🙂 I love reading your posts…

  • Veronica…

    Hi Steve,

    I’ve written before about attributes I developed as a survivor and integrity is definitely one of them. Encountering evil did make me determined to live with integrity. Really appreciated your post and absolutely loved the last part:

    But maybe it’s not our job to heal ourselves fully. Maybe it’s to survive this whole crazy life-thing with integrity?

    There is a Zen saying (which I can’t find right now) but it says something about how the bamboo only grows strong when tested by the wind…

    And maybe suffering from chronic severe depression has developed in you a sensitivity and compassion for others in pain?

    Not feeling particularly articulate today, my head is a busy place and sometimes it’s hard to focus, but we’re all here because we support Sarah, and it’s lovely to support each other too…
    Best Wishes,
    Veronica…

  • waterlily

    I just saw your response now Veronica. I agree, its definitely important to take a step back. Having cases like this in the public arena can trigger our own issues and (as you say) we can get consumed by it. I had to stop reading about this case and others like it (e.g Rolf Harris) for a while there. On the other hand it is good to be able to talk through the stuff that comes up in a safe environment. And there are surprisingly few online forums where we can do that. All the media articles I’ve come across on this case have comments disabled, and blogs are generally filled with deranged spam from people who think the victims are lying (again, why would anyone do that??)

    So I’m really glad Sarah has this thread (whether she intended to provide it or not hehe) where I can express my thoughts. I’ve been thinking on why people are so reluctant to believe celebrities are capable of child abuse.

    Is it because if the nice guy on tv is a pedophile, then anyone could be one – and that means you cannot put your trust in anyone. Which is scary and confronting, so its easier to blame the victim?

    Or is it because if a much loved celebrity is guilty, especially someone you loved since childhood then it is a betrayal of the ‘love’ you’ve shown them. And they’ve fooled you by concealing their true nature. Nobody wants to believe they have been fooled by a monster, so again its easier to blame the victim.

    My final theory is people think pedophiles are dodgy looking men in raincoats, so its inconceivable that someone normal and seemingly well adjusted could be one. So again, easier to blame the victim.

    As survivors we know this stuff happens, because it happened to us. And its quite often family members or trusted family friends who do it. So for us its not a stretch to believe that the guy on tv is capable of it.
    Maybe that’s the difference.

  • Haylee

    you are a moron elvis!

  • Stephen Bala

    Thanks so much, Veronica. Take care x

  • Veronica…

    Thinking exactly the same thoughts!!! Why are people so reluctant to believe celebrities are capable of child abuse? Also – why are people so reluctant to believe victims in general when they come forward? Why is there so often such a backlash against the victim?
    A forensic psychologist told Hughes’ sentencing hearing:

    …there is usually something obviously “creepy” and “distasteful” paedophiles. “I didn’t detect anything like that from Mr Hughes,” the psychologist said. “I could qualify that by saying he’s a professional actor and a professionally charming person.”

    I disagree with this statement and agree with your final theory. People don’t want to believe it’s happening in their own backyard. They don’t want to believe it’s a family member, or a cast member, or a neighbour, or the local doctor or barrister. They don’t want to believe it’s a teacher or the bus driver or the clergy.

    But as survivors we know differently…

    Anyway – it’s time for me to get out in the sunshine and garden with dog!!!

  • waterlily

    Yes I saw that too, and wondered where the hell that psychologist did his training!
    I think people have the illusion that the world is generally ok and you can trust most people with your kids. But you want to keep your kids away from the guy lurking around who looks a bit creepy because he’s the one you can’t trust. People would like to believe that the world is that black and white.
    So when a victim speaks out about a perpetrator who doesn’t fit that profile, is charismatic, high profile or widely liked, its too confronting for people. It challenges how they perceive the world on a deep, fundamental level. When someone throws a brick in their illusion and shatters it to pieces, people’s natural reaction is fury at the person who’s done it, which is of course the person who’s spoken up.
    I’m no expert, this is just my own thoughts on this. But on a purely objective level, this mass backlash is actually quite fascinating. Perhaps if we can understand why people react this way, we can slowly work on educating people and creating more empathy out there in society. But it all starts with brave people who speak up and challenge this culture of secrecy. They are the ones with enough courage to bring the truth to light and to shatter the illusion.
    Any social psychologists out there should consider doing a thesis on this.
    Enjoy the sunshine Veronica 🙂

  • Veronica…

    Loved everything you wrote – agree 100%. You have so much to contribute to this discussion. Yes the ped is in jail and will be sentenced, but the societal backlash against victims who speak out still remains.

    Waiting for a news update and unable to concentrate much today!!!

    PS: We have a giant outdoor beanbag in the backyard!!! I have yet to find anything more healing that stretching out on that with dog!!! Staring up into the trees and being fully in the moment…we love that!!!

    Lovely to hear from you Waterlily – enjoy your day 🙂

  • Evelyn Wrigley

    Hi Sarah, today you have done yourself proud, you have had to live with a secret for a long time and today is the day you can say what he did will never leave me but it will never ever be a secret anymore. I hope that today you can stop and and take a deep breath and smile. You did it. Good luck with the rest of your life.

  • Sophie

    Dear Sarah, I feel so sad for you when I look at your gorgeous, little face as a child in those pictures! What a horrible, frightening thing to have lived through. What an incredibly brave woman you are, and I wish you all the love and luck in the world, because you certainly deserve it!

  • Sophie

    I find the comment from the psychologist to be incredibly ignorant and I would like to know the actual real professional experience of the ‘profession’. I would venture to suggest (and I could be wrong, of course!) that this psychologist is either a much older man, or a very inexperienced, younger psychologist. Whatever the case, it’s obvious that while some pedophiles may come across as ‘creepy’, many of them also come across as extremely normal, and very trustworthy. That is what makes them dangerous. It is a very sad way to have to go through life- suspecting the worst from any man with whom you leave your child, but there needs to be more open education around this type of thing. Men like Robert Hughes make live hell for children, and for the women they’ve now become. He also does an incredible disservice to all the good men in the world, who women find hard to trust, and trust with their children.
    My personal belief is that we will not move forward in addressing these crimes against children, until more of society’s good men begin objecting in numbers as strong as women. This is an issue that creates mistrust and suspicion when it is not always deserved, but what else do the goof men of the world expect women to do when so many of their ‘brothers’ are committing crimes against children.

  • Veronica…

    Loved your post Sophie…loved reading your thoughts and ideas.

  • waterlily

    You’re totally right Sophie. This is the same psychiatrist who has also said Hughes is at a low risk of reoffending due to his age. Is there a retirement age for pedophiles? Sorry, that’s a bad joke but I feel like you either have to laugh or bash your head against the wall in frustration at the ignorance of it all…

    He also thinks Hughes has a good chance of rehabilitation, despite the fact that he hasn’t acknowledged his guilt or shown any remorse or insight into his crimes. I’m thinking the defence chose this guy deliberately due to his lack of experience/insight. It is frightening that people like this are considered experts when they appear to lack even common sense.

    There definitely needs to be more open education around this sort of thing. And it has to start with breaking through the wall of shame, blame and silence that surrounds it. Girls and women are scared to speak up because they are worried they’ll either not be believed or be blamed for it and that happens a lot. Even though we’re supposed to be living in a post-feminist society, there is still a stigma and a shame around being the victim of a sex crime. I think a lot of this has to do with our attitudes about sexuality, and that deep in our collective psyche women are still seen as the keepers of virtue. I wonder whether our views on sexuality have really changed since the times of Adam and Eve. We’re all aware of the double standard of ‘studs’ and ‘sluts’ after all.
    But I’m getting into murky territory there, what I think we need to do is make it easier for victims (or their parents) to speak up at the time – both in terms of the legal system and in terms of community support. If we can bring it to light and take away some of the shame and stigma of being the victim of a sex crime, then maybe people would feel more comfortable speaking up.

    I’m honestly not sure how we go about doing that, but I think a bunch of experts should get together and start working on it. After all, its 1 in 3 women who are sexually abused/assaulted during the course of their lives. This is a mainstream issue that’s just not widely talked about.

  • Dean McIntosh

    Sarah, thank you. Thank you for having the courage to get up and testify to what happened, and for helping us as a community say to the kinds of people who do things like that that it is not okay. From the time I first saw you on the show to now, I always had a feeling that you were one of the better people to be associated with Hey Dad! and television in general. Thank you for proving that feeling to be right.

  • Tina

    Hi Sarah,
    I just wanted to say that admire you for standing up and making sure that predator got what he deserved. Sadly my abuser died many years before the stories of the many people he hurt came out. I find that quite hard to take and still struggle with the impact of abuse every day even 50 years later. I would’ve loved the chance to even just tell him what I think of him but do take some comfort from the fact that the tide seems to be turning and the chickens coming home to roost for these monsters. I wish I could be more positive but I despair at the scale of this problem and my heart breaks for the many whose lives have been destroyed and for those still to come. Well done you for taking back the power … 1 down and hopefully many more to follow xxx

  • nina

    when I heard the news I was shocked! how could this happen, I was in England in 2010 – the beginning of the trial-I couldnt wait to get home to Australia to escape the media /trial- people in our village were asking terrible questions about this Australian. To my horror- on my return to Australia- my 4 year old daughter has a secret to tell me- about her poppa- my father- he had be molesting her- hurting her.
    Sarah- you and I have so much in common.
    I followed your story with revoltion and I became obsessed with what this man did- the same as my father- how could this be- then my eldest child- 23 told me he had done the same thing to her- but she forgave him- he had groomed her , showered her with gifts, money. I don’t blame her- as she is a victim- however Sarah my mother did the same as your mother- she said it was inappropriate touching- something that the child would forget- I asked myself- who the hell is this woman? If it was a stranger who hurt your child what would u do? I called the cops- and was very quickly disowned from my family, disinherited and received death threats- my mother said if I told anyone then Id be dead! So I did just that- I told everyone- and everyone knows- now he runs in shame- my mother choose money and social standing and an abusive person instead of her children and grandchildren.- I will never forgive her for that.
    Sarah – I sold everything I had and now also live in a caravan with my remaining 3 children- free from abuse.
    Be strong Sarah- you gave me hope when there was none.
    that little girl isn’t little anymore- shes the mouse that roared!

  • Tina

    I just watched your interview on a current affair and was compelled to contact you. I would just like to say that you are very brave and courageous. Keep being you and fighting. I am one of, I’m sure many, that, may or may not contact you, but would have thought of you and support you. I am angered for you by the system that subjects you to more hurt. I hope you keep fighting because you fight for all of those who will look to you for strength. I wish you a happy life going forward.

  • David Bates

    Hi Sarah, My name’s Dave and I live here in Sydney. I just finished your book and wanted to let you know what a strong, courageous and inspiring person you are. While we now know Robert Hughes abused many girls, we’ll never know how many were saved from his abuse as a direct result of your brave decision to name and shame him. If only there were more people like you in this world. Please know that for every ‘hater’ you hear from, there are thousands of others who are in awe of all that you’ve done. If you’re ever back in Sydney, my partner and I would love to shout you dinner and hear all about your time in the military (my partner’s in the Navy) 🙂 Take care and enjoy your beautiful life in the States, Dave and Ash.